Wednesday, September 28, 2011

You make your own choices...

Life is full of endless choices and decisions, with the many different opportunities and pathways coming our way and we never know which way may be the 'right' way. What is the right way though? People in our lives often try to influence and sometimes even dictate our decisions telling us this is the 'right' way, that way is 'not', however we must remember that the final decision lies ultimately with ourselves.

While it's generally the large decisions that we often ponder and consider more thoroughly than others, when we do finally make a decision, we can sometimes remind ourselves, almost as though we're second guessing ourselves, "I know I'm making the 'right' decision here..."
It's not knowing of what may happen next, where things may lead, what pathways may appear and the fear of the unknown makes us feel that way. As no matter how much we calculate, plan, anticipate, we can only really determine a portion of what may happen - especially as uncertainty can often even throws us the short ball that leaves us unbalanced in where we are.

So while not every decision is not a do or die situation, one should remember that generally the 'right' way may not seem as clear as you think however as long as you are comfortable in the decision yourself then I believe you will find that 'right' way for you. No one can really tell you whether a decision is the right one, though they can influence and try persuade you, it's ultimately your final choice to go that way or not. It is equally important to stand by whatever decision you end up making if you believe it is right. Sometimes being patient and waiting may help as well but opportunities can only wait for so long...

I'm personally finding myself in a person where I'm going to need to make that decision amongst all the influences and discussions with family and friends. Ultimately, however, whatever decision I do choose, I have to know it to be my decision, and a decision that I am willing to take...

Here's a nice quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson on decisions:

“Whatever course you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising which tempt you to believe that your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to an end requires courage.” - Ralph Waldo Emerson