I picked up a book a while ago and took some notes from it as it seemed that there were some significant questions and thoughts that I believe we ought to reevaluate about ourselves. I can't recall the title of the book now, but it's about building your self-confidence/ self awareness. Here are the ideas that stood out for me:
- If we believe a lie it might as well be the truth for the impact it has on us.
- Within every adversity, there is a seed of equal or greater opportunity.
- How you were brought up might not always have helped you develop your self-confidence, but people's behaviour towards you isn't definitive. Your destiny isn't determined by the actions of others but by how you respond to those actions.
- You can't manage the past. You can only focus on today and determine that tomorrow will be better.
- If you can change your thinking, you can change how you're feeling.
- Holding negative beliefs about yourself can put the brakes on you making a breakthrough.
- Accept that flaws are us
- Go easy on the boxing glove - beating yourself up
- Quit waiting to feel confident - If you're waiting for the right feeling before you take the right action - you could be waiting a long time!
- Weigh up but don't be weighted down by criticism
- Turn the spotlight onto your audience - When you think more about others, you stress less about yourself.
- Say less, achieve more.
- Stories sell
- Rehearse (i.e. practice as complacency can kill you)
- Contribution creates confidence - in helping others we help ourselves
- When we make a difference to others we also make a difference to ourselves.
- Gaining confidence is not always the goal. It's simply the by-product of the actions you take.
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