Food for thought - some interesting questions for self-development

Jun 28, 2010 2:50:00 PM / by Vu Long Tran

I picked up a book a while ago and took some notes from it as it seemed that there were some significant questions and thoughts that I believe we ought to reevaluate about ourselves. I can't recall the title of the book now, but it's about building your self-confidence/ self awareness. Here are the ideas that stood out for me:
  • If we believe a lie it might as well be the truth for the impact it has on us.
  • Within every adversity, there is a seed of equal or greater opportunity.
  • How you were brought up might not always have helped you develop your self-confidence, but people's behaviour towards you isn't definitive. Your destiny isn't determined by the actions of others but by how you respond to those actions.
  • You can't manage the past. You can only focus on today and determine that tomorrow will be better.
  • If you can change your thinking, you can change how you're feeling. 
  • Holding negative beliefs about yourself can put the brakes on you making a breakthrough.
  • Accept that flaws are us
  • Go easy on the boxing glove - beating yourself up
  • Quit waiting to feel confident - If you're waiting for the right feeling before you take the right action - you could be waiting a long time!
  • Weigh up but don't be weighted down by criticism
  • Turn the spotlight onto your audience - When you think more about others, you stress less about yourself.
  • Say less, achieve more.
  • Stories sell
  • Rehearse (i.e. practice as complacency can kill you)
  • Contribution creates confidence - in helping others we help ourselves 
  • When we make a difference to others we also make a difference to ourselves.
  • Gaining confidence is not always the goal. It's simply the by-product of the actions you take.
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Written by Vu Long Tran

Solutions Engineer APAC. ex-@Forrester consultant. Writing on #cloud #howto guides and #tech tinkering!